Friendship may, and often and often dose, grow into love,
but love never subsides into friendship, says George Gordon Byron.
Do you identify with Lord Byron’s words? Personally, I think
so. Hatred is usually raised from passionate love. Strong love leads to too
much care. Too much care would ruin the love. In many cases, it was whom you love
most hate you most. You want to be friends with her/him. It is only a fantasy!
Love never subsides into friendship!
Love and friendship are very different. Love involves in
strong passion and the sense of possession. Love needs to be unique. You can fall
in love with only one lover at a period (if you are a serious person), but you
can maintain good friendships with tens of friends. I agree with the above
opinion that friendship can mature into deep love but love nearly fades into
friendship.
sorry its too long, please read this ….I broke up with my
best friend a year ago….she was deeply and madly in love with me
whereas I soon realised that I was hurting her a lot and gave nothing other
then pain, I broke it off without any warning and she was devastated…she became
really panicky about losing me and offered her friendship instead…she thought
maybe this will do the trick and she can keep me close to her in whatever
relation she can manage to…but I really am not comfortable about this friendship
thing after the break up …moreover I felt the same old leftover feelings which
were not doing anything good in this relationship, the difference being only
the labels of gf-bf changed! I broke it off completely and calmly sorted out
everything with her consent that we will give it some time before getting into
friendship...she agreed! I don’t deny the fact that I care for her a lot and
cant see her struggling with it...I have always felt my urge to talk with her
and called her whenever she missed me or I missed her ….recently we didn’t talk
for a month at a stretch... we do scrap each other…. But I feel that she still
wants me in her life and is very obsessed with me! Although she claims that I
am only her best friend but she still NEGOTIATES and desperately wants me to
come along with her ….. She knows I care for her!
I don’t deny that I have been a major culprit in whatever is
happening to her…. I just want to go away from her…. So far that I won’t become
any prob for her…….. I love her but I want to go far…. I’m frustrated,
devastated, confused with job, love, life, family and friendship…. I feel
really bad and lonely as to have changed and feel like I won’t forgive myself
for being so unfair to such a lovely caring girl I have ever met in my life! Sorry
but I can’t cope up with this void in my life!
I am in a fix ….I really don’t think we are heading
anywhere! Instead she is trying to get closer to me every time she scraps and I
feel pity for her and emotionally tortured at the same time! I care for this
girl a lot people! She is not anyone so that I should forget about her and move
on consoling myself that its for good, I tried to ignore her, but it gets
painful after sometime and I end up replying her scraps yet another miseries...
maybe I have given her the hopes….she has been with me every time and has liked
me like hell and has supported me with her true heart! I can’t be so mean to
her! But the situation demands something else which is really tough for both of
us! Can this friendship really work in this case? She realises that I am trying
to avoid her and talk less as much as I can… But she can’t help herself come
behind me or show that SOFT CORNER AND DEEP CARE AND CONCERN she has for me....
she is OK... but I can feel the pain in her voice on phone... this really turns
me off and I feel guiltier! Please give you opinion ….I don’t want to lose her
but her wanting me behavior is driving me away from her!
Why can’t love turn back into friendship……… the more in
ignore…… getting on with other gals… nothing is possible… I’m so pissed off……..
