ME and MY LONELINESS: Its me

It’s so strange. And yes, I know it's not the first time this has been discussed. And this one, when it really comes down to it, will be no different from the others. But it’s another one of those times when this little part of my life that I have controlled so it won’t consume me, starts bubbling up again. I don’t know why, little things start it, get me thinking again. Why, am I, an almost 21year old boy, incapable of long term commitment? It’s quite embarrassing to think or talk about... Almost laughable at how pathetic that seems. If my story were told to a random stranger I’m sure they would think the reason would be that I am some dirty-faced, antisocial, impressionable, loner. I'll have you know, I am none of those things. I have friends, great friends; the majority of which are in healthy normal relationships. I however, am not.

I'm not saying I am not loved, because I really am - but not that way. Not in the way that is different from anything else and can make you feel the way that nothing else can. I wonder what it’s like to know you are loved that way. It fascinates me because it is completely foreign to me. It’s like imagining what it would feel like to be weightless in a rocketship on its way to the moon. Unfathomable until you actually experience it. And, for one reason or another, it seems as though I am not cut out to be an astronaut.

People want me, but not enough. Not enough to take it past the initial thrill of it. And I know how it works; oh I’ve seen it hundreds of times. Heard it, watched it... Just not in the first person that's all. It’s always looking behind glass windows, doors, at the others who have found it. And even though sometimes its fleeting, short-lived, its still real. I wonder about the day when I will be the one people are watching.

I have all of these things I want to do before I die; ride in a hot air balloon, awarded with oscar, learn to play guitar, see the statue of liberty, silly things like that. But more than any of those things, I would like to experience the feeling of being completely and utterly loved. In a way that not your parents, your best friend nor your sister loves you. But the love you get from someone that you feel the same about. Maybe that’s the silliest of all, but to me it is the most important.

I don’t know. I really truly don’t know, as I’ve said a thousand times before and will probably continue saying until I get my answer - if I get an answer. Sometimes it seems as though I’m reaching in the dark, for something I know must be there but it’s just so hard to find.

I still hold on to a tiny thread of hope that one day it’ll hit me over the head and I’ll just stand there baffled and realize I’ve finally found what I’ve been looking for, for as long as I can remember. But I also keep my head just below the clouds because the only thing worse for me than never finding what you’ve been looking for would be to constantly wait for it when it never comes.

Anyway, to all the people who have found it, my hat is off to you. I hope you know how lucky you are to be experiencing one of the most amazing things in the world, I’m sure you do. And as for me, I will continue on with my life, doing the things I love, that feel right, and hope for the best. they say the best way to find love is by doing what you love, and I suppose I’m trying my best to do that right now. So maybe... Maybe, one day everything will fall into place. And if not, I’ll at least have the things I truly love to keep me occupied.